Brothers, Sisters, Strangers Blog


Welcome to my new blog! Here, you can freely discuss your challenges with sibling relationships. If you would like, I will not use your name to protect your privacy.

My interest in this topic is rooted in my personal story; my older brother and I didn’t talk to each other for most of my adult life. Over time, we did reconcile, and I captured that journey in my book, Brothers, Sisters, Strangers: Sibling Estrangement and the Road to Reconciliation.

For years, I’ve wondered about the nature of sibling relationships and, in particular, when and how they break down, cut off, or enter the territory of estrangement. How do sibling estrangement and reconciliation define an individual?

Here, I hope to give others the opportunity to explore this underacknowledged topic, which many experts call “epidemic.” Like me, you may find it helpful to think through these issues; writing a post for this blog may provide a useful structure to begin to do so. Writing is therapeutic and capturing stories in words benefits both the writer and the reader.

For those who are seeking personal life coaching, I offer private sessions to discuss estrangement, reconciliation, and family relations. Please email me at to discuss details. Thanks for participating and posting.

New post: 8 Misperceptions about Sibling Estrangement

Misperceptions abound as estranged siblings avoid discussing their experiences.

New post: Resources for those struggling with sibling estrangement

Sibling estrangement is a kind of Me-Too movement, as those who suffer are finally breaking silence, rejecting shame, and sharing stories.

Latest post: Should you reconcile with your estranged sibling?

What questions should you ask yourself before re-entering a relationship with a difficult sibling? When reconciling, should you discuss the roots of the estrangement?

New post: Why the Estranged Feel More Abandoned During the Pandemic

Upcoming event: Book Club leader Judy Levin interviews author of Brothers, Sisters, Strangers

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Do you think gifting your book would help with reconciliation?

Hi Fern - I so so loved your book! Well done to your brother and you for articulating the series of events/emotions that led to your estrangement. So comforting. I'm experiencing the early days of sibling estrangement with my sister.I'm wondering, if I should gift her your book? Perhaps, she'll read it and come running with open arms... On the flipside it will be another attempt met with disregard and ...

Jingle Bell Alert: During the holidays, social media can be perilous for the estranged!

Staying Connecting to Siblings When You Hate Their Politics

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