Brothers, Sisters, Strangers Blog

Brothers, Sisters, Strangers
Brothers, Sisters, Strangers

Welcome to my new blog! Here, you can freely discuss your challenges with sibling relationships. If you would like, I will not use your name to protect your privacy.

My interest in this topic is rooted in my personal story; my older brother and I didn't talk to each other for most of my adult life. Over time, we did reconcile, and I captured that journey in my book, Brothers, Sisters, Strangers: Sibling Estrangement and the Road to Reconciliation.

For years, I've wondered about the nature of sibling relationships and, in particular, when and how they break down, cut off, or enter the territory of estrangement. How do sibling estrangement and reconciliation define an individual?

Here, I hope to give others the opportunity to explore this underacknowledged topic, which many experts call "epidemic." Like me, you may find it helpful to think through these issues; writing a post for this blog may provide a useful structure to begin to do so. Writing is therapeutic and capturing stories in words benefits both the writer and the reader. In fact, I have created a writing workbook, The Sibling Estrangement Journal: A Guided Exploration of Your Experience through Writing, offering you a private, emotional outlet to understand and process the grief of sibling estrangement.

Here is the link to the book on Amazon:

For those who are seeking personal life coaching, I offer private sessions to discuss estrangement, reconciliation, and family relations. Please email me at to discuss details. Thanks for participating and posting.

Choosing Between Authenticity and Attachment

Many abandon their true selves to hold onto relationships, even toxic ones.

Grieving the Death of an Estranged Family Member

The illness or death of an estranged family member can present one of the most vexing moments for those cut off from that person and/or others in the family.


A guide to exploring your troubled sibling relationship through writing. Link to order:  

Author now offers one-on-one estrangement coaching

I have worked with many clients as they navigate the range of emotions of sibling estrangement – from anger to sadness to rumination. Often, those who are shunned are struggling with ongoing grief, as they mourn the living. I offer private, one-on-one sessions to discuss estrangement, reconciliation, and family relations in general. I draw upon my research for the books I’ve written on this topic, as well as my lived experience ...

Amazon is offering Brothers, Sisters, Strangers for $18.99 right now!

Amazon is offering BROTHERS, SISTERS, STRANGERS at a 32% discount right now. The hardcover is only $18.99 -- $9 off the regular price.

Sibling Connections in Childhood Define Adult Relationships

  “The influence brothers and sisters have on each other’s lives goes far beyond their own interactions,” Dr. Lewis writes. “Understanding the quality and emotional tone of the childhood relationship provides a rich source of information about and explanations for who siblings are today.”

New review: The Sibling Estrangement Journal is “better than a glass of wine!”

Grateful to EstrangedSib for this five star review on Amazon of THE SIBLING ESTRANGEMENT JOURNAL:   5.0 out of 5 stars Costs less than a glass of wine & much more effective Reviewed in the United States on March 16, 2023 Verified Purchase This is the best money I've spent on coping with the emotions of my sibling totally estranging me more than two years ago now. I highly recommend ...

How Siblings Contribute to “The Good Life”

A new book finds that relationships — especially with siblings — make life fulfilling.

Three Hidden Influences in Sibling Relationships

Personification, core beliefs, trauma bonding, oh my!

BBC-Wales explores sibling estrangement and the Royals divide

Price Harry's memoir, Spare, has sparked interest in sibling estrangement. Here, BBC-Wales addresses the subject and also explores the rarely discussed topic of estrangement due to religious differences. #siblings #estrangement #royals #cutout #alienation #silenttreatment #family #familydynamics

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