Dear Ms. Chapman,
My two daughters have been estranged since summer 2018, three years now. One went into the Navy, soon to be stationed in Hawaii, the other lives with her boyfriend about 45 minutes away. The Navy daughter and I are very close, the other older daughter also has not spoken to me in three years. When I turned 60 last September she texted me. It had been 2 years at that point. As of this date, I still have not seen, nor spoken to my daughter since 2018, only texting and even that is limited. My younger one wants nothing to do with her until she makes it right with me, but I know there’s more to it. She has told me periods of downright meanness inflicted upon her during their teenage years, times when it was hidden from me.
I divorced their father because he was an abusive alcoholic. The older daughter blames me for staying in the marriage so long, then we lost the house. It was a horrible time for all of us, but I tried to keep the three of us together, and I did succeed! In the end, the older daughter believed the lies her father told her and sided with him therefore cutting me and her sister off.
Your book actually picked me out, if you can believe that?! I was looking for something else, but when I saw the title I walked over to the new book section, read the inside, and proceeded to read it every chance I had thereby finishing in a few days. I loved this book. The way you write is so readable, it flows and I was learning something which for me is the highlight of reading anything! Now I must return it by Friday to the library, but I will buy the book, for me and for my two daughters.
I am to blame for staying in a marriage that was so debilitating , but when you grow up in an abusive house, and you don’t know anything else, it’s hard to believe you can get out of it. Still, my younger daughter does not hold it over my head because she understands, although we agree, I still hurt her. This is a fact.
I hope and look forward to any response Ms. Chapman! Thank you, thank you for writing this loving, compassionate and courageous book. I do not feel so alone anymore.