Choosing No Contact With a Toxic Family Member?

Going no contact is a decisive step taken to end physical, psychological, or emotional suffering at the hands of an abusive sibling or other family member. As a tactic to protect oneself from continual hurt, it is generally the last resort. Photo credit: Alex Green/Pexels  

Found in my 98-year-old mother’s apartment!

This is the earliest photo I've seen of my mother, Edith Schumer nee Westerfeld. Taken in 1925 in Stockstadt am Rhein, Germany, Edith is pictured here when she was only months old. The second woman from the right is holding her, and that's her older sister, Betty, standing in front of their mother. Edith and Betty survived the Holocaust, as my grandparents had the foresight to send both of them ...

A Hidden Cause of Troubled Family Relationships

Researchers have identified many root causes of estrangement, but undiagnosed autism is not on that list.

Therapist Praises Brothers, Sisters, Strangers

Therapist Whitney Goodman praises Brothers, Sisters, Strangers on Tik Tok, and identifies her favorite quote from the book.

Who will want to read this?

My mother, Edith Schumer, was a Holocaust refugee who fled Nazi Germany as a 12-year-old unaccompanied minor. She never said a word about her past – even though the anguish and abandonment she felt in fleeing her village alone had defined her life. She lost everything in 1938: her home, her family, her language, her loyalties, her identity. The way she coped was to never speak of her early life, ...

Choosing Between Authenticity and Attachment

Many abandon their true selves to hold onto relationships, even toxic ones.

Grieving the Death of an Estranged Family Member

The illness or death of an estranged family member can present one of the most vexing moments for those cut off from that person and/or others in the family.


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Author now offers one-on-one estrangement coaching

I have worked with many clients as they navigate the range of emotions of sibling estrangement – from anger to sadness to rumination. Often, those who are shunned are struggling with ongoing grief, as they mourn the living. I offer private, one-on-one sessions to discuss estrangement, reconciliation, and family relations in general. I draw upon my research for the books I’ve written on this topic, as well as my lived experience ...

Amazon is offering Brothers, Sisters, Strangers for $18.99 right now!

Amazon is offering BROTHERS, SISTERS, STRANGERS at a 32% discount right now. The hardcover is only $18.99 -- $9 off the regular price.