On Writing

Grieving the Death of an Estranged Family Member

The illness or death of an estranged family member can present one of the most vexing moments for those cut off from that person and/or others in the family. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/brothers-sisters-strangers/202304/grieving-the-death-of-an-estranged-family-member?error_code=1349037&error_message=User+opted+out+of+platform%3A+The+action+attempted+is+disallowed%2C+because+the+user+has+opted+out+of+Facebook+platform.#_=_

THE SIBLING ESTRANGEMENT JOURNAL gets a new look!

A guide to exploring your troubled sibling relationship through writing. Link to order: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BLLTT6SJ#SalesRank  

Author now offers one-on-one estrangement coaching

I have worked with many clients as they navigate the range of emotions of sibling estrangement – from anger to sadness to rumination. Often, those who are shunned are struggling with ongoing grief, as they mourn the living. I offer private, one-on-one sessions to discuss estrangement, reconciliation, and family relations in general. I draw upon my research for the books I’ve written on this topic, as well as my lived experience ...

Amazon is offering Brothers, Sisters, Strangers for $18.99 right now!

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Sibling Connections in Childhood Define Adult Relationships

  “The influence brothers and sisters have on each other’s lives goes far beyond their own interactions,” Dr. Lewis writes. “Understanding the quality and emotional tone of the childhood relationship provides a rich source of information about and explanations for who siblings are today.” https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/brothers-sisters-strangers/202303/sibling-connections-in-childhood-can-define-adult

New review: The Sibling Estrangement Journal is “better than a glass of wine!”

Grateful to EstrangedSib for this five star review on Amazon of THE SIBLING ESTRANGEMENT JOURNAL:   5.0 out of 5 stars Costs less than a glass of wine & much more effective Reviewed in the United States on March 16, 2023 Verified Purchase This is the best money I've spent on coping with the emotions of my sibling totally estranging me more than two years ago now. I highly recommend ...

“I had to tell someone before I die.”

After I gave a presentation about my mother’s Holocaust history at a senior residence in Chicago a few years ago, a man in his late 80s came up to me and whispered, “I want to tell you something.” He grabbed my elbow and ushered me into a private corner of the room. “I’ve never told anyone this before.” Tears streaked his face, and he bit his lip as he worked ...

How Siblings Contribute to “The Good Life”

A new book finds that relationships — especially with siblings — make life fulfilling. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/brothers-sisters-strangers/202302/how-siblings-contribute-to-the-good-life

What can remain of a family murdered 52 years ago?

On my first trip to my mother’s town, Stockstadt am Rhein, I wondered if there would be any physical evidence of her past. “What can remain of a family destroyed fifty-two years earlier?” I wrote in my memoir, Motherland. I learned then that the past has peculiar ways of inserting itself into the present. When we first arrived in Germany, my mother turned to me and said, “We can’t leave ...

Three Hidden Influences in Sibling Relationships

Personification, core beliefs, trauma bonding, oh my! https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/brothers-sisters-strangers/202302/3-hidden-influences-on-sibling-relationships