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Hiding vices or avoiding triggers may cause family members to cut off contact. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/brothers-sisters-strangers/202504/2-hidden-factors-that-contribute-to-family-estrangement

  "Second, there are distinct risk factors for sibling estrangement. In her book, Brothers, Sisters, Strangers: Sibling Estrangement and the Road to Reconciliation, Fern Schumer Chapman says children raised in chaotic, abusive, or neglectful families like the one V and I grew up in run the greatest risk of estrangement, often shutting down and numbing themselves to their emotions, which effectively limits all relationships. She adds that poor communication skills ...

https://www.thecut.com/article/sister-is-cutting-out-relatives-family-wrong-no-contact.html

For Love of Recovery Podcast features FSC - https://www.forloveofrecovery.com/podcast/my-sibling-and-i-are-estranged-fern-schumer-chapman

I read the description of this book to my hub. He could not believe how accurately it described the emotions & distress which have consumed our lives over the past 9 months. My baby sister dumped us after more than 33 years of closeness. It has been nearly a year of despair, hurt & anger.

How far would you go to avoid being forced to kill? That is the question Bruce Wasser faced as a young man! The year is 1969; Bruce is 20, and 90 was his lottery number. The number that guaranteed he’d be drafted into the military—likely becoming a soldier in the Vietnam War. Join us for the ZOOM book launch party on Friday, January 10, 2025, at 8:30 pm EST, (7:30 ...

The "Let Them Theory" argues that chronically disrespectful relationships shouldn't be sustained. Instead of trying to fix the other person, the theory posits, it's best to "let them" behave as they will. Is it a good idea?  

“AITA For Refusing To Babysit After My Sister Demanded I Stop Bringing My BF To Family Events?”   Author of Brothers, Sisters, Strangers: Sibling Estrangement and the Road to Reconciliation, Fern Schumer Chapman, suggested that one of the siblings choosing a partner can be a perilous moment in their relationship. “A new partner may feel threatened by, or jealous of, closeness between brothers and sisters...” https://www.boredpanda.com/man-refuses-babysit-homophobic-sisters-kid/

A new novel explores a sibling's lifelong struggles with a mentally ill sister. Psychologytoday.com blog post KEY POINTS When a sibling suffers with mental illness, family members may feel anxious, overwhelmed, and resentful. Some brothers and sisters stay in an unhealthy job or relationship out of loyalty to a mentally ill sibling. Through transference, old childhood feelings toward a sibling often resurface in adult relationships.  

How far would you go to avoid being forced to kill? 90 is the number that, on a cold December night, hijacks a young man’s future. The year is 1969; Bruce is 20, and 90 is his draft lottery number. The number that guarantees he’ll be drafted into the military—likely becoming a soldier in the Vietnam War. In this compelling memoir, one young man—an outsider among his privileged peers at ...